From: officialflagrant
Bobby Lee and his ex-partner Kalila maintain a friendly relationship following their separation [00:01:14]. Despite no longer being together [00:01:55], they remain very close friends [00:01:14], with Bobby stating that he will “always help her” [00:16:48]. Kalila is considered by Bobby to be in his “intimate circle” of friends, alongside his mother and brother [00:17:02].
Post-Separation Dynamics
Discussions indicate Kalila was in the process of moving out of their shared home [00:01:16]. However, there’s a playful suggestion that she might not actually move out because it’s a “nice house” [00:01:24]. The conversation also touched upon the legal aspects of their separation, specifically regarding California’s common-law marriage laws. Bobby asserts that there is no common-law marriage in California [00:16:05], which is affirmed by a quick search [00:16:11]. He notes that rights for unmarried people living together only apply in situations where they share financial responsibilities, such as paying a mortgage together; if one person pays the mortgage, the other has fewer rights [00:16:21].
Reflections on Relationship Dynamics
Bobby has expressed a historical attraction to “poor” women whom he could “save,” wanting to be their “knight in shining armor” [00:02:41] and ensure they were “security” and “couldn’t go anywhere” [00:02:43]. This perspective highlights a desire to be the provider and retain control in a relationship.
Bobby’s struggles with addiction and sobriety also played a role in his relationship with Kalila. During a trip to Mexico, when Bobby was advised not to drink alcohol, a friend gave him a non-alcoholic drink to prevent a relapse [00:18:30]. Despite this, Bobby ended up getting drunk on his own, unbeknownst to his friend [00:20:54]. This incident led to a significant low point, with Bobby throwing up and having feces on his hands in his hotel room [00:21:04]. He later admitted that this moment was a turning point, making him realize he “knew it was over” [00:22:05] and that he “can’t continue” with his addiction if he didn’t want to “lose everything” [00:22:08]. This period of his life led to a renewed commitment to sobriety [00:22:30].
The hosts also touched on Bobby’s overall relationship philosophy, noting his growth in being more open and connected. He has been more responsible and connected in his life, particularly after turning 50, a change he attributes to a fear of death after the passing of fellow comedians Bob Saget and Louie Anderson [01:28:06]. This new chapter in his life is marked by a desire for freedom, joy, fun, and responsibility [01:28:29].