From: alexhormozi
Achieving success can often bring unforeseen interpersonal and societal challenges. Initially, individuals may receive support and encouragement from those around them, particularly when they are perceived as the “underdog” [00:00:55]. However, once significant progress or wealth is attained, this dynamic can shift, leading to resentment or changed perceptions from former supporters [00:00:13].
Shifting Perceptions with Success
A common observation is that while people may express well-wishes for your endeavors, their support can wane or turn negative if your success surpasses their own [00:00:58]. This phenomenon can be illustrated by the experience of a business guru who, during his early struggles, slept on a bed in the gym where he personal trained [00:00:03]. His trainees offered encouragement, hoping for his success [00:00:08]. However, once he achieved success, owned the gym, and became a manager, the same individuals questioned his efforts and authority [00:00:13]. This transition from being seen as an underdog to “the man” marks a critical point where perceptions can change [00:00:54].
Personal Impact of Success
The experience of this shift can be profoundly difficult. One individual described living through such a moment as “so difficult” that they wrote an essay to process it [00:00:46]. This essay was titled “Everyone believes in the American dream until it comes true” [00:00:51], highlighting the unexpected challenges that accompany the realization of aspirations.
This challenge is relevant to individuals who experience rapid success, such as those who “explode almost overnight” [00:00:32]. Friends or acquaintances who initially wished them well on their journey to becoming, for example, a successful YouTuber or pro bodybuilder, may react differently once those goals are not only met but exceeded [00:00:37].
The difficulty of navigating these changes in social dynamics when achieving success underscores that personal development and growth can impact existing relationships and require careful management of social interactions. While initial setbacks and perseverance are often celebrated, the complexities of managing relationships after success has been attained present a distinct set of challenges.